The huge explosion of social networks on the Internet has created potential marriage problems like never before. Former lovers, classmates and co-workers are re-uniting on the Internet and online affairs are happening constantly. How do you survive an online affair? Are these as damaging to a marriage as a physical affair? Here is what you must do if you want to save your marriage.
I believe that although people get married for a variety of specific reasons, it all boils down to one basic reason: Together, they created an environment that the two of them both wanted to be in. So it follows that if at some point during the marriage that environment changes for either of them, that is when problems occur.
In the case of an online affair that idea certainly holds true as well. The environment you and your spouse have created together has changed in some way or another. This affair has replaced something that was missing, maybe excitement or someone to listen to their problems. Something is missing right now and this affair is filling that hole.
An extramarital affair, regardless of whether it is emotional like something on the internet, or physical is serious, damaging to a marriage and very hurtful. Your marriage CAN survive though. Here is what I can tell you:
1. Rather than focusing on the range of negative emotions you may be feeling right now, it will be necessary to put yourself in a more resourceful state. By remaining calm, rational and clear-headed, you will be in a much better position to take the steps necessary to survive the affair and save your marriage.
2. The focus must be placed on the marriage itself and not the two of you as individuals. This is the reason why most traditional marriage counseling fails, because it works from a faulty model. Treating the marriage as almost a separate entity from the two of you is the key.
3. You must take action immediately to reverse the course that your marriage is on! The longer you wait, the less your chances are for saving the marriage. By saying certain things and doing certain things, you can begin to change the dynamics of the relationship immediately!
You can survive an online affair and so can your marriage. You just need to re-dedicate yourself to the marriage and take certain steps. It works even if your spouse is doing nothing at all to help!
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