“I’m not in love with you anymore.” Probably seven of the worst words a man can hear from the woman he loves. I felt the wind knocked right out of my stomach when my wife told me that a few years ago. If this is where you find yourself right now, then you may be looking for powerful advice to save your marriage. Even if your wife says she doesn’t love you anymore you can stop a divorce.
I know the Internet is full of advice from so-called “marriage experts.” That is NOT what this is. I am not a therapist or counselor and don’t claim to be an expert on marriage. But what I can tell you is that I have discovered (after making a ton of mistakes and nearly losing my marriage) a plan for saving marriages for men even when their wives wanted a divorce.
When my wife hit me with the bombshell a few years ago that she didn’t love me and wanted a divorce, I was COMPLETELY unprepared to handle this. I know now that what I did was wrong and that time is really critical in a situation like this. Most men in this position make the same mistakes I did and it makes the problem worse every time! You will find your wife pulling even further away from you, despite your sincerest and best efforts to reach out to her!
Here is the powerful advice I mentioned earlier:
First, you have got to get yourself out of the negative emotional condition you are in right now (anger, hurt, jealousy, fear, desperation etc.) and put yourself in a more resourceful state of calm and rational confidence. This will do several things. It allows you to retain some power in the relationship by not appearing weak or desperate. It makes you considerably more attractive and even mysterious to your wife since she will probably not have been expecting this. And finally, it enables you to take the lead in saving your marriage by taking powerful action!
The next important thing you must do is appear willing to let your wife go. The more you push, the more she pulls away. This will also not be what she is expecting. You don’t say, “I don’t care what you say, I don’t love you either!” It would be more like, “I’m sorry you feel that way. I guess you need to do what you need to do. I wish you nothing but the very best and I hope you find what makes you happy.”
Do not underestimate the power of those words!
Finally, you’ve heard that with every action there is a reaction. The actions you’ve been taking obviously haven’t been working! If your best thinking has gotten you to this point in the marriage, maybe it’s time to consider different action! There are very specific things you can do that will change the dynamics of your relationship even if your spouse isn’t doing anything to save the marriage! But you must be willing to take immediate action!
Learn more about what specific things you can say and do to save your marriage even if your wife has told you she wants a divorce and doesn’t love you anymore, this will show you how, just click here – Saving Your Marriage
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